Psych 350 1st Edition Lecture 19Outline of Last Lecture I. What’s physically attractive?II. Importance of SimilarityIII. Why don’t opposites attract?Outline of Current Lecture I. Does the hard-to-get effect exist?II. ReactanceIII. Attachment StylesCurrent LectureI. Does the hard-to-get effect exist?a. Only to a point: we prefer people who are moderately selective to those who are nonselective or too selectiveb. See previous slide on reciprocityII. Reactancea. Can increase attraction if a relationship is forbiddenb. Can decrease attraction if a relationship is encouraged by othersIII. Attachment stylesa. Attachments style: the way a person typically interacts with significant others- Influenced by early relationships with parents, and moderately stable over time.- Secure= 56% if adults- ability to trust and love another person,a lack of concern about being abandoned- Avoidant= 25% of adults- discomfort with closeness due to lack of trust, tend to be distant in relationships- Anxious (ambivalent)= 19% of adults- fears of abandonment, desire extremely close relationships, tend to scare others awayb. My lover and I were attracted to eachother immediately after we met= aros (passionate love)c. it is hard for me to say exactly when our friendship turned into love”= storge (friendship love)These notes represent a detailed interpretation of the professor’s lecture. GradeBuddy is best used as a supplement to your own notes, not as a substitute.d. I try to keep my lover a little uncertain about my commitment to him/her = ludus (uncommitted love)e. when things aren’t going right with my lover and me my stomach gets upset= mania (obsessive love)f. I considered what my lover was going to become in life before I committed myself to him/her= pragma (practical love) (online dating)g. I try to always help my lover through difficult times= agape (selfless
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